I'm glad I didn't skip this one on Freddie's list! I was thinking today about having lost a number of long-term friends over lockdown and why this was... and I wonder if buried resentments surfacing was just as much as part of things as the not seeing each other.
Apologies that I'm just now seeing this comment, and thank you so much for reading!
I do feel like this has played a role, at least in some of my own interpersonal dynamics.
In general, I've noticed that when life is moving forward in the normal ways, it's pretty easy to "move on" from the various slights and transgressions.
Somebody makes an insensitive comment? Somebody flakes on brunch? Oh well! I've got other friends to see, and other things to do. It might all sting for a moment, but the natural progress of life means that there are better things to do that re-litigate a snippy comment made in passing, circa 2019.
But when everything else has stopped? There is no statute of limitations. There is no natural forward movement. All that's left is the past (complete with the thousand unpleasant moments that had been buried by the natural progression of time)...
I'm glad I didn't skip this one on Freddie's list! I was thinking today about having lost a number of long-term friends over lockdown and why this was... and I wonder if buried resentments surfacing was just as much as part of things as the not seeing each other.
Apologies that I'm just now seeing this comment, and thank you so much for reading!
I do feel like this has played a role, at least in some of my own interpersonal dynamics.
In general, I've noticed that when life is moving forward in the normal ways, it's pretty easy to "move on" from the various slights and transgressions.
Somebody makes an insensitive comment? Somebody flakes on brunch? Oh well! I've got other friends to see, and other things to do. It might all sting for a moment, but the natural progress of life means that there are better things to do that re-litigate a snippy comment made in passing, circa 2019.
But when everything else has stopped? There is no statute of limitations. There is no natural forward movement. All that's left is the past (complete with the thousand unpleasant moments that had been buried by the natural progression of time)...
Brilliant!
Thank you so much!